16 September 2009

The Devils are Lurking---Better Watch Out


They are out there. Watching and waiting. Plotting on ways to destroy your happiness. Whether they are jealous of how you are happy with your life or miserable with theirs, they can and will find ways to make you come down to their level. Yes, I am a victim of the devils. I have dealt with these people recently for the last couple of months. They sit here and smile in your face, and they will speak to you on a daily basis. They ask how is your day, how is your family; you know. The typical devil. I believe they call these devils-haters. It might be funny, but it's not. They are manipulative, deceitful, and hatred. But yes, they will smile like nothing is going on.

Better be careful and be mindful of these devils. Oh there are different kinds; you just got to know which one you are dealing with. Here is an excerpt from a website about different types of haters:

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Quadrant I – Friend – Here, at the very bottom left corner of the spectrum, you will find your real friends and true supports; your comrades in the fight for getting what you want out of Life. Anyone that you associate with regularly (from a business or social standpoint) should clearly lie in this quadrant. These people have absolutely no desire to harm you on your path to success (factor a) and likewise should never have to demonstrate their skill (factor b).



Quadrant II – Incompetent Hater – Here, at the top left corner, you will find haters at the bottom of intelligence scale. Generally, these are individuals who had nor did not complete their GED, avoid learning new knowledge at all costs (in order to maintain their “coolness”) and love to talk smack to you. Typically they can only compile a few very basic insults, which should have little effect on deterring you since they tend to be so comically primitive. These haters are the easiest to deal with and can actually provide comical relief.



Quadrant III – Mom – Here, at the far bottom right corner, you will find people who are close to you, yet still want to deter you from doing what you’ve set out to do, in the form of “trapping” (explained in How Haters Help). They have no desire to inflict damage upon you or hinder you in your path to success and only want to save you from disappointment. As a result, they will use cunning techniques to stop you from continuing (which are usually disguised as something else, since they really care about and do not want to hurt you).



Quadrant IV – Veteran Hater – Here, at the top right corner, you will find the most damaging haters; ones not to be trifled with. These are the “veteran” haters that have both the desire and the skills required to effectively damage you in your path to success. They have spent a long time ‘hating” on go-getters and know what works and does not. These are the people who are “existentially tormented” (as explained in How Haters Help) by witnessing success and have dedicated their lives to bringing down successful individuals. Out of all the haters, they require the most skill to deal with. These are the types of haters which truly successful people have had to deal with the most.
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The devils are everywhere; in your home, at your job, at social events, in the grocery store, wherever a devil can hatch his eggs. Learning how to deal with these devils is the first step to continuing your happiness. Realizing how people can ruin your day by making their misery your misery is definitely a start on how you can remove them from your life.














11 September 2009

Searching for Family

Lately, I have been wondering about the background from where I came from. Searching for my family members in the United States has been hard. I only know of the ones who were born on my mother's side of the family. I know a few from my father's side of the family. I am hoping that if you are reading this blog, that you can help me in anyway that you can.

My name is Tiesha Starr, but my maiden name is Tiesha Cunningham. From what I know about my grandfather, his name is Charles Cunningham, Sr. I was told that he live in California, but died recently. He has other children as well. My grandmother's maiden name is Margie Lee Owens. I don't know too much about any Owens that are related to me. This is something that I have been wanting to do for a very long time and the time has come now to find out where my other family members are.

09 September 2009

Letting Go--Family, Friends, and Enemies

"But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you; That ye may be the children of your Father which is in heaven: for he maketh his sun to rise on the evil and on the good, and sendeth rain on the just and on the unjust." (Matthew 5:44,45)

I had done a total 360 on my life and what I value the most about life. There were times where I would feel that nobody loved me and maybe I shouldn't been on this Earth. Now, I love my life. I am not perfect, nor do I claim to be as such. I recently had an argument with an ex-associate (I cannot say the word "friend" on this occasion.) This individual, who shall remain nameless for the sake of their identity, thought that everyone was beneath them and they were a special creation that God gave to the earth. To this day, they still act this way. I had to let this person know that God created everyone to have a purpose on Earth. We all live to learn that God is the way, the truth, and the light and no man is better than God.

Not only did this person think that they knew so much, they had their friends that were friends with me disassociate themselves from me as well. If someone tell you to jump off a bridge, knowing that if you jump, you have a 50/50 chance of living or dying, and you jump anyways, YOU ARE VERY WEAK MINDED! Basically, this person controlled his friends and those who he belittled or riddiculed because of their situations in life, he made fun of. I prayed that this person either change or God will deal with him in his own ways. That situation is no longer my concern. My concern is the well-being of myself, and my immediate family.

Let's talk about family though. Sometimes, you can have the best family members that love and appreciate you for who you are, but we do have those who wants to put us down because how we want to live our life and that they think they are better than others. Well for those family members that I had to stop associating myself with, I wish you nothing but the best for your life. I pray that God will always love you no matter what situation that you may be going through.