LONG TIME...No Blogging! Update, Update, Update

Hi everyone! 

It's been a very long time since I actually sat down and blogged on Blogspot. I've been through a lot of up's and down's in life. I am not going to go into details about it, but let's just say, I am a much better individual than before.

Anywho, I decided to start back blogging about my personal weight loss journey. I am very confident about my weight, but there is some weight that I want to get off permanently. I've been carrying around weight from my 2 c-sections for some years. After the birth of my second daughter, it feels like I'm dragging a kangaroo pouch around when I walk. Not cute whatsoever. I am going to post a photo of me from earlier this year. You really can't see the kangaroo pouch, but i can feel it. I will try to do an update every week (if not everyday). I will also post a weekly photo update on my blog to show my progress on my weight loss. You can follow me on my journey and hold me accountable if I tend to fall off the wagon.

Proceed...with CAUTION!

ONLINE DATING! PROCEED WITH CAUTION!

The evolution of online dating can go as far back as the first time Internet was invented. Based on my own personal research, online dating can go as far back as the early to mid 20th century. There are many methods to online dating that one may find useful for themselves, but with this, there is a risk of meeting some deranged psychopath who has no life nor any morals, or meeting a woman who sits around all day having wanting someone to feel pity for her messed up life.



The Many Lies of Online Dating


Let's be real. Every female is not a size 4 and every man does not have a 10" penis. We have people in America who lie so much that it is very hard to believe them. The worse thing a person can do is to photoshop their photo to make them look smaller or have larger chests and have longer hair.





I am not suggesting you to stop looking for someone to date, but if you are going to look for a person to date, you should at least set some kind of standards for yourself. The most decent and handsome looking guy could be the one who has a one track mind. All he thinks about is sex and not what he can contribute to the relationship. The sexiest woman in the world could be the one who has more mental problems than Lorena Bobbitt. If you take pride in the way you look, then you should take some pride in who you chose for a partner. Who knows: Maybe you and this person will have something in common and they maybe marriage material.

Facebook Enemies

Good morning to some and good afternoon to the rest of you. I haven't written a blog in a very long time and coming up with this topic was very difficult, but I must say that my post will be interesting.

I know that some of us have had encounters with Facebook Enemies . You know, the people who put on a big front behind the world of Facebook, yet they don't seem so big and bad when you see them in person. The one's who think they can "whip your ass" or "cut your throat." Chile please! You wasn't bad on Facebook, and you ain't bad in person.

I find these people to be so funny. Now, they are beginning to take their threats to Twitter. Seriously! If you got to talk smack behind a computer screen, you are weak! I love these people though. They tend to try and get under your skin, call you names, or whatnot. Yet, you see the same person in the mall or in a restaurant, and they are kissing your ass.

I got a newflash for you: I knew you were a punk then, and you still are a punk. You ain't got the balls to run your trap in my face, so why don't you stop being a jerk online. Stop pretending that you are all that, and a bag of Lays when we know your life is meaningless. I don't care if you have a job, or living in a mansion; you do not scare me. I don't go to bed at night worried about your miserable and pointless life, yet these people got nothing better to do than stalk your Facebook statuses and Twitter posts, try to dog your blogs (Wordpress, Blogger..) and say things about you that is actually referring to their life.

What I do with my time on Facebook and Twitter has nothing to do with you. Yes, I do pay my bills, I pay my taxes, I clean my house, I still attend school, I still take care of my daughter, I do satisfy my husband and keep him happy, so tell me; what are you doing with yourself? Take a look in the mirror and see that you are very unhappy, miserable, and lonely. Maybe your woman isn't making you happy or your man is cheating, yet you want to place the blame on someone else.

Get a life! It starts with prayer sweetie. Read the bible and find a verse that will cater to your life and ask God for deliverance from sin because all this hating is nothing but sin my dear! Until the next blog...may God give you peace!

Hip Hop Exposed by G. Craige Lewis

Lately, I've been doing some video watching since I gotten a new laptop (YAY ME!) and one of the few videos that I have been watching is this one by Elder G. Craige Lewis. The man is a true blessing from God. Not only does he explains it in clear language about what God likes and doesn't like, he breaks it down and draws you into the sermon he preaches. He isn't like other Baptist preachers that I have ever seen; he is way different. I will post a video link on my blog and I hope you have the time to watch this video and understand the meaning behind EX Ministries. I really enjoy watching Elder Lewis via YouTube and I hope that one of these days, my husband and I can meet him in person.

The Devils are Lurking---Better Watch Out

They are out there. Watching and waiting. Plotting on ways to destroy your happiness. Whether they are jealous of how you are happy with your life or miserable with theirs, they can and will find ways to make you come down to their level. Yes, I am a victim of the devils. I have dealt with these people recently for the last couple of months. They sit here and smile in your face, and they will speak to you on a daily basis. They ask how is your day, how is your family; you know. The typical devil. I believe they call these devils-haters. It might be funny, but it's not. They are manipulative, deceitful, and hatred. But yes, they will smile like nothing is going on.

Better be careful and be mindful of these devils. Oh there are different kinds; you just got to know which one you are dealing with. Here is an excerpt from a website about different types of haters:

"Quadrant I – Friend – Here, at the very bottom left corner of the spectrum, you will find your real friends and true supports; your comrades in the fight for getting what you want out of Life. Anyone that you associate with regularly (from a business or social standpoint) should clearly lie in this quadrant. These people have absolutely no desire to harm you on your path to success (factor a) and likewise should never have to demonstrate their skill (factor b).



Quadrant II – Incompetent Hater – Here, at the top left corner, you will find haters at the bottom of intelligence scale. Generally, these are individuals who had nor did not complete their GED, avoid learning new knowledge at all costs (in order to maintain their “coolness”) and love to talk smack to you. Typically they can only compile a few very basic insults, which should have little effect on deterring you since they tend to be so comically primitive. These haters are the easiest to deal with and can actually provide comical relief.



Quadrant III – Mom – Here, at the far bottom right corner, you will find people who are close to you, yet still want to deter you from doing what you’ve set out to do, in the form of “trapping” (explained in How Haters Help). They have no desire to inflict damage upon you or hinder you in your path to success and only want to save you from disappointment. As a result, they will use cunning techniques to stop you from continuing (which are usually disguised as something else, since they really care about and do not want to hurt you).



Quadrant IV – Veteran Hater – Here, at the top right corner, you will find the most damaging haters; ones not to be trifled with. These are the “veteran” haters that have both the desire and the skills required to effectively damage you in your path to success. They have spent a long time ‘hating” on go-getters and know what works and does not. These are the people who are “existentially tormented” (as explained in How Haters Help) by witnessing success and have dedicated their lives to bringing down successful individuals. Out of all the haters, they require the most skill to deal with. These are the types of haters which truly successful people have had to deal with the most."

The devils are everywhere; in your home, at your job, at social events, in the grocery store, wherever a devil can hatch his eggs. Learning how to deal with these devils is the first step to continuing your happiness. Realizing how people can ruin your day by making their misery your misery is definitely a start on how you can remove them from your life.

Searching for Family

Lately, I have been wondering about the background from where I came from. Searching for my family members in the United States has been hard. I only know of the ones who were born on my mother's side of the family. I know a few from my father's side of the family. I am hoping that if you are reading this blog, that you can help me in anyway that you can.

My name is Tiesha Starr, but my maiden name is Tiesha Cunningham. From what I know about my grandfather, his name is Charles Cunningham, Sr. I was told that he live in California, but died recently. He has other children as well. My grandmother's maiden name is Margie Lee Owens. I don't know too much about any Owens that are related to me. This is something that I have been wanting to do for a very long time and the time has come now to find out where my other family members are.

Letting Go--Family, Friends, and Enemies

"But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you; That ye may be the children of your Father which is in heaven: for he maketh his sun to rise on the evil and on the good, and sendeth rain on the just and on the unjust." (Matthew 5:44,45)

I had done a total 360 on my life and what I value the most about life. There were times where I would feel that nobody loved me and maybe I shouldn't been on this Earth. Now, I love my life. I am not perfect, nor do I claim to be as such. I recently had an argument with an ex-associate (I cannot say the word "friend" on this occasion.) This individual, who shall remain nameless for the sake of their identity, thought that everyone was beneath them and they were a special creation that God gave to the earth. To this day, they still act this way. I had to let this person know that God created everyone to have a purpose on Earth. We all live to learn that God is the way, the truth, and the light and no man is better than God.

Not only did this person think that they knew so much, they had their friends that were friends with me disassociate themselves from me as well. If someone tell you to jump off a bridge, knowing that if you jump, you have a 50/50 chance of living or dying, and you jump anyways, YOU ARE VERY WEAK MINDED! Basically, this person controlled his friends and those who he belittled or riddiculed because of their situations in life, he made fun of. I prayed that this person either change or God will deal with him in his own ways. That situation is no longer my concern. My concern is the well-being of myself, and my immediate family.

Let's talk about family though. Sometimes, you can have the best family members that love and appreciate you for who you are, but we do have those who wants to put us down because how we want to live our life and that they think they are better than others. Well for those family members that I had to stop associating myself with, I wish you nothing but the best for your life. I pray that God will always love you no matter what situation that you may be going through.